What is the proper order for monogram initials on a handkerchief or embroidered gift?
The order of initials depends on the type of monogram that you are embroidering, the number of letters in the monogram style and who the handkerchief or gift recipient will be. To help you answer these questions, I put together a little monogram guide. The guide is based on a traditional monogram format and to give you a point of reference. Always feel free to use any order or style that you feel is right for you or the person you are gifting to!
*Just a reminder that the order you enter the initials, is the way The Handkerchief Shop embroiders them.
Monogramming for the Guys
Sample: Michael Daniel Smith
When letters are all the same size
Enter the letters in order First, Middle, Last.
When the center letter is larger
The last name initial is in the middle. Enter letters First, Last, Middle.
When there are only two letters
Enter the First and Last initial.
When there is only one letter
The last name or first name initial can be used.
Monogramming for the Ladies
Sample: Katherine Michelle Corver
When letters are all the same size
Enter the letters in order First, Middle, Last.
When the center letter is larger
The last name initial is in the middle. Enter letters First, Last, Middle.
When there are only two letters
Enter the First and Last initial.
When there is only one letter
The last name or first name initial can be used.
When there is a hyphenated last name
Sample: Katherine Michelle Vincent-Corver
The married name initial is in the middle and the maiden name initial is at the end. Enter letters First, Married, Maiden. 
Monogramming for Brides-to-be, Grooms-to-be OR Married Couples
Samples: Michael Daniel Smith AND Katherine Michelle Corver
Tonya Marie Loyd AND Meghan Lynn Johnson
Simon John Garcia AND Patrick David Anderson
When the center letter is larger and the couple has or will have the same last name
The married name (or soon-to-be married name) initial is in the middle and the couple's first name initials are on either side. Enter letters First, Married Last Name Initial, First.
When there are two letters or a couple is keeping their last names
When using a two letter monogram, use the last name initials of the couple. Enter Last, Last.
When using this type of monogram, enter the couple's first name initials. Enter First + First.
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Frequently Asked Questions About Monogram Etiquette
Whose initial goes first in a joint wedding monogram?
Traditionally, the wife’s first initial comes first, followed by the shared last name (larger in the center), and then the husband’s first initial (e.g., MSJ). This is a popular choice for a
What is the correct order for a masculine three-letter monogram?
For a more traditional look, often seen on a
Can I use a monogram on an upcycled denim jacket or bag?
Absolutely! Monogramming isn’t just for formal linens. We love adding bespoke monograms to upcycled vintage denim and accessories. It’s a great way to personalize a "one-of-a-kind" piece that feels modern while respecting the tradition of monogrammed embroidery.
Where should a monogram be placed on a wedding handkerchief?
The most popular placement is the bottom corner (diagonal), approximately 1 to 2 inches from the hem. For Mother of the Bride gifts, we often suggest placing the embroidery near delicate lace or floral details. For Father of the Bride gifts, a clean, centered placement on a straight-edge hem offers a more tailored, masculine feel.
How do I choose between a traditional font and handwriting embroidery?
Traditional fonts are perfect for classic, formal milestones and standard custom embroidery. Handwriting embroidery is a beautiful alternative for those looking for a deeply personal, "heirloom" feel—such as digitizing a note that says "I loved you first" for a father, or a special date for a mother.
